The past one year just flew in a jiffy. However, contemplating on the things that one has learnt this whole year, it is difficult to believe that a person can make so many revelations in such a short span. One makes little discoveries in life quite often, but putting them down on paper makes you realise how overwhelming these can be, especially if you have learnt these things the hard way. Here are some lessons I learnt this year — nothing extraordinary — but I believe these will go a long way in making life a little better for me, and hopefully, for all those reading this post.
1. Flowery Language Equals Bad Writing: I used to be the kind of person who would embellish all my writings with as many big words and metaphors as possible. The major aim was to sound like a professional academic, to the point of making my essays difficult to grasp, even to the professor evaluating it. It took me a while to realise that the concepts presented in the academic papers we were asked to read, were credible despite the difficult writings, not because of it! Surely, Shakespeare was not kidding when he said, “Brevity is the soul of wit.” A simple, straightforward essay backed by solid arguments can be far more effective than an over-stretched pompous-sounding one.
2. Consider Words Precious: When you have a curriculum that encourages class participation, and allots a certain amount of marks for speaking in class, it is but natural that one would speak out whatever that comes to his mind. However, when done in excess, this can be detrimental to the progress of the class. Speaking for the heck of it, without reflecting is as good as adding on to the already existing chaos of arguments. Looking at the classroom as a microcosm of the society, the point becomes clearer — you cannot take a debate forward when the arguments are pointless and repetitive. It took a casual conversation with a faculty member for me to realise this fact, something that most people seem to be oblivious about.
3. It is OK to be Unaware. Sometimes. : You don’t have to know everything – just keep the curiosity alive. As simple as that. There is a certain thrill in just sitting for a class you have absolutely no clue about, and coming out of it realising some things on your own. You don’t have to know everything about a subject before opting for it. A course becomes all the more special to one person because of all the unexpected but valuable lessons he learns on his own; and this will resonate differently with different people.
4. Hate the Argument, Not the Arguer: Well, this sounds easy, but in fact is quite difficult to follow. Most of the times we either don’t agree to something said by someone we don’t like, or we start disliking a person for something he says that we don’t want to listen to. This can be a major barrier in one’s personal and professional growth.
5. There is Something Positive About Everyone: You may not like someone, because of their opinions, their actions or the way they behave with you. But dig deeper, there is something positive about everyone, something that you can learn from them. Keeping this in mind and focusing on the positive part can surely help you in interacting amicably with them.
6. The More You Enjoy Something, The Better You Perform: This is quite self-explanatory, but is amazingly true. Having realised this, what is important is how you make use of this fact. Not liking something is not a good excuse for performing badly, since you will be judged on the things that you don’t like but do well, rather than the things that you like and hence do well in. It definitely helps if you have certain people around, sharing with you these pearls of wisdom.
7. Things Don’t Always Go Your Way: It is a good thing to be prepared for the worst case scenario. There will be people who don’t work according to your expectations; there will be times when you don’t work as efficiently as you are capable of. Just accept things the way they are, and move on.
This is not an exhaustive list; I certainly hope it isn’t. I am constantly adding new pointers to this. These may sound clichéd, but they make the most impact when you learn it by experience and find it within yourself.
By Manasa Gopakumar '15